RLV: Not for me. (And Collar Posing)

This post is mostly for people I am "scening with" in SL.  To follow most of this, you'll need a familiarity with Second Life and the Restrained Love API.  Commonly called RLV because it was originally created by an SL resident (Marine Kelly) as one of the early 3rd party viewers.  And the viewer was called, Restrained Life Viewer.  You can read about it at http://www.erestraint.com/realrestraint/.  I, and all the BDSM community in SL, owe her thanks for giving us such a wonderful addition to our second lives.

And there is a BDSM community in SL, and I guess you could say I'm a member.  In fact, you could almost say that in adult sims, BDSM is ubiquitous.  And I used to have RLV turned on in my viewer.  But over time I learned that this wasn't for me.  Here are the reasons why:

1. I often wander SL alone.  Get stuck in an RLV trap while alone and you are trapped indeed.  Getting out requires relogging.
2. I have a number of playmates, and not all have been skilled using RLV.
3. I have a number of attachments and clothing layers that should not be removed.  Prim feet, naughty bits, tattoos, etc.  Yet these can be accidentally removed easily now that many objects are attached to the same point.  And if "locked on," it seems that items that should come off in those areas, won't.
4. I like to shop, club, explore and change my look.  With RLV turned on cuffs, collars and bondage gear that is "locked" cannot be removed without a relog back into a viewer that is not RLV.  This reduces my "fun" quotient.  SL is about fun and creativity to me.  So that is bad.
5. I think this has been fixed in the newest OC gear, but not in everything.  But once upon a time if you were posed by a collar "owner."  You could not change your pose or get out of it.  If they leave, or crash, without releasing you, you are stuck in that pose unless you relog without RLV.

Notice all of these issues are solved by turning off RLV.  I can still be leashed.  If desired I can be posed.  For those that enjoy the restraints, go for it.  If you have a "permanent" owner, I can understand leaving it on and limiting access only to them.  But for someone like me, RLV is more a pain than a pleasure.

On posing: 

I also don't like other people to pose me.  RLV  and collars are supposed to give us the ability to make SL more like RL.  In RL, unless there is something going on I don't know about, dominants do not have the power to telepathically mind control others into a specific position.  So why do they in SL?

They can say (like in RL), kneel, or whatever and I'd lay odds I can do it faster than they can.  Likewise they can roleplay any action RLV permits and I will take care of the complexity of making it happen.  I can remove a clothing item for example without accidentally removing the naughty bits.  I can typically find and sit on the right pose ball, add items, etc.  All quickly and without the dominant having to wade through menus.

That's just how I roll.  Again, I'm not saying these things can't be fun or useful in certain contexts.

And for your viewing pleasure, me in a collar.